Why Russian women prefer Western men ?Posted by: Jefke | Posted on: January 12, 2017
Why Russian women want to marry foreign men ?
Let me make it clear in the beginning. This question is very old and has been asked and debated plenty of times. Most people have tried to answer it in their own capacity and we would also do the same. We would refer to what we have observed on online dating sites and what people share. The question is why Russian women marry Americans, Australians and Europeans? Or to put it in simpler terms, why Russian women want to marry a foreigner but not a native man?
What makes Russian women want to marry foreigners?
The answer lies in how their minds are shaped from the childhood. No matter what is their social or financial status, the girls are taught that marriage is the ultimate happiness in life. They are told that a woman is worth nothing if she doesn’t have a husband and children. The family is supposed to be her first priority. Even if she has a good job and a great career to look forward to, she is expected to give up everything and pursue a man and get married at the earliest.
This may sound regressive to you or absurd, but this is the truth. Both in Russia and Ukraine, children are brought up with clearly defined gender roles. While men are supposed to work outside and earn money, the women would look after the house. The men are considered the head of the family and take all major decisions.
You may wonder why women agree to this system which has been largely denounced in other parts of the world. The answer lies in the cultural notion followed in Russia. The women here are made to think that happiness lies in marriage and children. Career or creative pursuits are not meant to give her satisfaction.
Single women in Russia are under constant pressure to find husbands for themselves. A woman, if not married by 22 is looked down upon in the society. Not only that, she is also supposed to become a mother before turning 25, otherwise she is termed as an old mother.
Thus, the only objective of women is to find a man and marry him and bear his children. The society is so regressive against a woman that she is advised to hide her intelligence or not try to pursue higher education because she won’t find a suitable groom. A woman is not supposed to be smarter, more intelligent or richer than her husband.
In such a scenario, you can conclude that marrying a foreigner comes as a respite to Russian women. They can lead an independent life, pursue their career aspirations and lead a more respectable life. In foreign countries, they get a better lifestyle, do not have to remain subjugated to their husbands and be free in the real sense of the word. Thus, with opening up of the economies and advent of online dating, Russian women showed their preference for foreign men. Be it Australians, Americans or Europeans, the western men with their sensibility and bias-free attitude towards women appeal to the Russian women.
The demographic reasons behind Russian women choosing foreign husband
The demography of the country also has to play a role in creating such a biased society. The ratio of men to women as one gets older is extremely skewed. There are fewer men above 30 than women. High death rate amongst men is the major factor behind such skewed sex ratio.
The other reason that we have found out behind Russian women marrying foreign men is the attitude of the native men. The men, still holding on the gender roles do not respect their women. Some men are known to cheat regularly on their wives. The Russian women are solely responsible for raising the children and taking care of the household. They do not get any support from their husbands which make them feel neglected. There have been cases of domestic violence too in Russia.
Some women, who have got higher education or exposure to western culture, do not find suitable grooms in their own country. They are attracted towards foreign men with whom they study or have professional relationships. Online dating is another major reason for Russian women choosing western men for marriage.
Through online dating, they come in contact with men from different countries. These men are romantic, well-settled and capable of providing them with a stable life. Often, the Russian women find like-minded partners in foreign countries. Girls, who are into good jobs and travel often, find foreign men more attractive. Thus, they choose to settle down with American or European guys.
Thus, we can conclude that due to a host of reasons like social, demographic, and economic the Russian women show a preference for foreign men. We can also conclude that with the emergence of more online dating sites, this trend would continue and more and more Russian women would marry men from America, Europe, and Australia.